Comments on: Final Planning

By: sexy mom

sexy mom — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 03:39:14 +0000

i agree, if we can plan on birthdays, anniversarys, etc., why not plan for another milestone–the final milestone, our death. it may not yet be very acceptable now, considering our culture, but in time, i guess it will be possible. Btw, i have written something about that in my post, Sexy Mom-Bared. Read it if you have time, and you will end up laughing and laughing. http://dine.racoma.com.ph/family/sexy-mom-bared/

By: Toni

Toni — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 00:51:04 +0000

Thanks to everyone. Your various responses are inspiring. I’m still not comfortable with the idea of planning a funeral, but I know I’ll get around to doing it soon. The stories you shared are encouraging. For now, I’ll keep on enjoying life to the max!

By: tutubi

tutubi — Sun, 25 Mar 2007 08:19:13 +0000

it’s a fact of life so plan for it no matter how morbid

By: jennie

jennie — Sun, 25 Mar 2007 07:15:01 +0000

congrats on the nomination, toni

a couple of weeks before my mom passed away she called me to her room and told me what she wanted done at her funeral. i thought it was morbid and i didn’t want to listen, but she was adamant and made me listen. and i’m glad i did. she really planned ahead and i think she did it because she didn’t want to add to the grief we were feeling. on her interment plan, there was a “what i want for my funeral” page. it details the requests of the plan holders, from what to wear to what song to play, sort of like a will. it may sound morbid, but it’s good to plan ahead.

God bless!

By: Lani

Lani — Sun, 25 Mar 2007 07:08:48 +0000

Before my father died, it’s really hard for me to talk/plan about funeral/burial. But after that, medyo naging open-minded na kami. I already told my hubby what to do when I die. Kaya lang di siya agree sa iba. The truth is I have an organ donor card and I want my whole body to be donated to a worthy cause. But he doesn’t agree. Siguro nga medyo kakaiba iyon kaya ayaw nilang gawin. So, siempre dahil kahit naman anong gawin ko ay wala akong magagawa kung patay na ako, doon na lang ako sa nakaugalian na.
2-3 days lang ang burol and ilibing na agad. I chose na the songs and picture na gagamitin, gusto ko iyong masasayang kanta. I want everybody to celebrate, ayaw ko na malungkot.

By: justice

justice — Sun, 25 Mar 2007 02:24:42 +0000

Toni, I know how dreadful that feeling can be but being prepared for it is not bad either…

My mom had her wishes and we granted them all to the best that we can. The pictures during the wake, the flowers, and most specially the MOOD….she asked us a favor to NOT make a sad gathering of family and friends when she is remembered.

By: ree

ree — Sat, 24 Mar 2007 10:12:03 +0000

hey toni.
i’ve always thought of my mom as superwoman too. it was a real wakeup call when she had a series of heart attacks a few years ago. really scary.

I remember one time she was so excited to share some news with me–she had purchased a funeral plan. i thought it was morbidly funny at that time. now, i realize that it IS a good idea to talk about these things, and we have, sort of. she’s told me the kind of music she’d like played, where to scatter her ashes, things like that.

it still isn’t easy thinking about death. but i have no fears about it. i know where me and mine are ending up

By: Daphne

Daphne — Sat, 24 Mar 2007 07:49:54 +0000

With my parents getting on with age, a few years ago I took the initiative to scout around for burial plots and invested in a good burial plan for them.
It is something we all hate and dread to think about but it is bound to happen sooner than later and we need to prepare ourselves for that eventuality.

By: Leo

Leo — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 23:42:03 +0000

It is not enough that we tell our love ones what we went them to do with our bodies once we depart for the afterlife. We should also indicate whether want the supportive measures that can prolonged the dying process. This is important especially for those who are living in developed nations with universal health care.
As for me, death itself is inevitable and we will all die successfully. It is the thought of going alone on a one way trip to somewhere and being permanently separated from our love ones that is very hard to swallow.

By: hazel

hazel — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 21:05:26 +0000

actually… one of my favorite class in college was my philosophy class in 2nd year… our prof had us make a “death plan” … it was actually a death plan together with what you want or imagine your life to be until you die.

it was fun had to look for coffins and such… where do they put my ashes after cremation… etc. it’s fun looking back at it now. coz there i said i’d get married just about now! hahah

it was a great journey/exercise… we all enjoyed that. we even made letters to everyone that they can read when they die… unfortunately that time i didn’t know hubby yet…so… i better make one again! hehehe