Hanging by their ears. The pic in the previous entry was taken by my sister J. That’s her 17-year-old Snoopy hanging by his ears on the clothes line. The other stuffed toys are my Mom’s and my other sister’s. Coming from a family full of girls, you can be sure our closets and shelves were bursting with stuffed toys! This is just one way their household help keeps the toys clean. I think there are formulas being sold outside that help keep the stuffed toys fluffy, but we don’t use that. Stuffed toys age just like we all do and we just have to accept that they can’t be fluffy forever. Heehee.
For life or money. I was faced with a life-changing decision the past few weeks. It was exactly this decision: Life or money? I exaggerate of course. This was how the scenario went:
Behind Door #1: Take a job that pays a lot more and takes more of my time.
Behind Door #2: Stay with my job that pays okay but gives me enough personal time.
Since THE call came at the beginning of the year, I was shaken out of my senses. Could this New Year be a New Beginning for a New Career? I wondered. I sought the advice of a select few — my best friends E & B, my folks and H. No sense broadcasting it to the world right? I prayed a lot too. The power of prayer is amazing.
Guess what I decided? I chose Door #2. I take my career seriously and would jump at opportunities that would make me climb this ladder faster — but not at the expense of my personal time. You see, personal growth matters to me a lot. The guiding principle in some entries ago resonated in my heart during my decision-making. “No success can compensate for failure in the home.” I could be making so much money but not have the time to spend with my husband? Be too stressed out to prepare myself for motherhood? (Mama keeps telling me I have to prepare my body and stuff.) I didn’t think that money was worth it.
Tough decision, very tough. After all, practicality matters a lot in building a home too. The extra money could’ve been put into repairing that closet, probably getting a car, getting a computer, you know the deal. I’ve always trusted my gut though. I felt I would be trading off something for all this. I didn’t want to sacrifice my marriage for goodness sake! I know my priorities!
So there you go. I am very happy with the decision I have made. My boss knows all about this and we’ve had a heart-to-heart talk about the whole thing. It was truly enlightening and made me feel even better about the decision I made.
And then I wondered, would I have made the same decision if I were single? The answer to my question was YES. That made me feel terrific. I guess I’ve reached a point in my life that I’ve developed a strong loyalty to a company I very much believe in, as well as developed a strong sense of self.
Life isn’t always about the money. It’s also about knowing what your priorities are and thinking of what’s best for yourself. In my heart I know that I will get somewhere with my career but it would be premature to take on that opportunity now. I believe in my heart that this year will be dedicated to building my career with my current company, building a good home with my husband and building a stronger sense of self. I believe I’ve taken the first step. And it’s not even a “wifely” step. It’s much more than that.